The ReDefining Me workshop was a powerful and intentional gathering designed to help participants confront the internal narratives that keep them stuck and learn how to reshape those narratives into something healthier, freer, and more aligned with who they were created to be. The heart of this workshop centered around one main truth: we cannot change our lives until we first change what we believe about ourselves, our past, and our future.
We began with the reminder that in the beginning, we are born with openness. We enter the world believing that life is full of possibility and that people are naturally good. However, over time, pain disrupts that innocence. Experiences with hurt, betrayal, abandonment, disappointment, or loss begin to shape our inner world. Eventually, a shift takes place—not just emotionally, but mentally, spiritually, and even physically. Participants were invited to reflect on the reason they showed up and acknowledge that something happened that brought them to this moment of readiness.
For many, the motivation to attend was rooted in one of three realities:
something “they did,” something “you did,” or something “you lost.”
Whether the pain came from someone else’s actions, personal choices, or grief and life transitions, the message was clear: regardless of the story, you are here—and being here matters.
Throughout the workshop, attendees were equipped with practical tools that promote emotional regulation and embodied healing. They learned grounding techniques such as diaphragmatic breathing, the body hug, creating a calm and safe place, and developing somatic awareness, all of which emphasized the importance of reconnecting with the body in the healing process. These tools were not simply taught as coping skills, but as reminders that the body holds wisdom and that safety must be restored before true transformation can occur.
As we explored the deeper psychological foundation of trauma, participants gained clarity on what trauma is, how it differs from everyday stress, and how it disrupts the mind, body, and spirit. We discussed the three major disruptions trauma creates, including how it impacts identity, perception, and relational safety. A major takeaway was that trauma often does not reduce a person’s intelligence but instead alters their interpretation of themselves and the world. In other words, trauma distorts interpretation, not intelligence.
One of the most significant insights was the understanding that after trauma, identity often becomes organized around survival. Many people are not living from who they truly are—they are living from what they had to become in order to endure. This survival-based identity often gives birth to deeply rooted limiting beliefs, shaping core thoughts such as “I am not safe,” “I am not worthy,” “I will always be abandoned,” or “I will never be enough.” These beliefs become internal scripts that influence decisions, relationships, and self-worth.
A meaningful portion of the workshop focused on the integration of faith and psychology. Participants were reminded that psychology is not separate from the Bible and that God’s design for healing includes the mind and body. We explored the neurobiology of trauma through a spiritual lens and discussed how biblical characters experienced pain, disruption, and restoration. This allowed participants to see that God has always been present in the process of healing, and that emotional wellness is not unspiritual—it is often part of God’s redemptive work.
Ultimately, the workshop guided attendees toward the process of rewriting their story. Healing was framed not as erasing the past, but as reclaiming meaning and authority over the narrative. One key truth stood out: healing changes the story, not the past. Participants were empowered to move from merely surviving to intentionally thriving by identifying the beliefs formed in pain and replacing them with truth, purpose, and renewed identity.
By the end of the workshop, the atmosphere was one of reflection, empowerment, and hope. Participants walked away with practical regulation tools, deeper understanding of trauma, and a renewed commitment to redefining themselves—not by what happened to them, but by what healing makes possible. The workshop served as both a mirror and a turning point: a space where individuals could acknowledge what shaped them and still choose to become someone new.
ReDefining Me was not simply a workshop. It was an invitation to transformation—a declaration that the old script no longer has the final word.
